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Orgasmic Meditation

As a committed yogi, I couldn’t help but notice this one. OMing, as it’s called, was founded back in 2001 by Nicole Daedone in San Francisco.  It’s now a multi-city business venture, including here in London. See http://turnonbritain.co.uk/ if you think it may tickle your fancy. It’s defined as a practice and borrows from both yoga and meditation, but is more ‘therapeutic’ in its aim rather than a ‘sexual’. The experience lasts 15 minutes and is carefully timed. It happens with the lights on, on yoga mats in a studio. The woman (it usually is a woman), creates a ‘nest’ under a blanket for herself. She has chosen a partner, who remains fully clothed, the so-called ‘stroker’. Over the course of the15 minutes, the partner rubs the upper left quadrant of the woman’s clitoris.  She surrenders to involuntary sensation. Daedone says that OMing brings ‘consciousness to sexuality in the same way that sitting meditation brings consciousness to stillness and yoga brings consciousness to movement’.  People who have experienced OMing report myriad benefits. These include increased vitality, increased libido, weight loss, greater self-esteem, reduced stress and irritability and increased connection with your partner. So now you know. OneTaste originally presented OM as a spiritual practice, but as Daedone’s fame has grown, it’s now taught as a technological innovation. She says, ‘We are officially a technology, based on scientific knowledge about physiology and psychology and it goes far beyond insight or a piece of advice. In fact,’ she continues, ‘I would go even further to say orgasm can do for physical connection what the internet has done for us in terms of virtual connection.’Master manipulator or irresistible charmer? You’ll have to decide that one for yourself. See http://onetaste.us/ for more information.

Tantric sex 

Sting became synonymous with this one, ever since he made a throwaway and drunken comment to a journalist some 20 years ago. But never fear, you don’t have to be a fan of The Police to enjoy the practice. So what is tantric sex exactly? Again, the word has links to eastern philosophy. In Sanskrit it means ‘woven together’ with reference to the spiritual and the physical. It harks back to meditation practices in 5th century India. The aim is to prolong pleasure – and this goes for both women and men. The idea is that you remain at the peak of ecstatic pleasure without climaxing. There are all the feelings of a typical orgasm, but it lasts for many minutes (or even hours), without a traditional orgasm. Experts in the tantric approach say it has far more to do with your mental approach than with technique and has nothing to do with boasting about staying power. To become a practitioner you’ll have to get into the zone. You’ll need to make time to focus on your breathing and that of your partner. There’s also emphasis on the giving and receiving of kisses, and exploring each other with your tongues. Take an hour to give each other a massage, including genital stimulation, but steering clear of intercourse. Again it’s all about giving and receiving. Other tips include spending time talking about sex and exploring a personal sexual taboo together. See http://tantric.meetup.com/cities/gb/17/london/ if you’re interested in finding out more.

There are all the feelings of a typical orgasm,      but it lasts for many minutes (or even hours), without a traditional orgasm.


Not to be confused with crazy golf! It’s also known as partner or wife-swapping or even wife-lending! Swingers consider the practice as a social activity and it’s essentially when people in monogamous relationships indulge in sexual activity with others. Couples cite a variety of reasons for ‘swinging’, with most just wishing to spice up their otherwise conventional sex lives and many seeing it as just a healthy outlet which serves to strengthen their relationships. And I quite envy them as most say they don’t feel an ounce of jealousy. How very grown up. Swinging takes place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity involving partner swapping at an informal gathering of friends to planned regular social meetings, to ‘hooking-up’ with like-minded people at  a swinger club. These shouldn’t be confused with a strip clubs. Some clubs might offer theme nights and swingers apparently have a secret language which excludes those not involved in the lifestyle. There are thousands of websites that cater to swingers. Here are a couple in London for starters – http://www.feverparties.com/ and http://www.southlondonswingers.co.uk/ Good luck and above all – enjoy!